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To be BI or not to be BI
Discussion - started by Tensaman, posted on 6-Apr-26 10:06AM
I’m curious how many retired male or female decide to check out a walk on the bi side for the first time. I hv met so many men single and married checking out the bi side. I too was a curious newbie a few years ago.

I think most men are curious closet bi’s but I will say this I hv been careful though reluctant to explore maybe fearful BUT my first experiences were with amazing open safe men also exploring

The open safe and respectful relationship is key. I still enjoy making love to women but I enjoy men just as much. Now I’m not so sure it’s about male or female love making It’s just lovemaking with another who enjoys love making and pleasuring each other that’s non judgmental and respectful.

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Comment #1 by Tritonman in response to the main topic
Posted on 7-Apr-26 9:18AM
I have been on my bi journey for some time now. Started late but have thoroughly enjoyed the experience to date. I think it has happened as I have become more open minded and accepting of the the many facets of sexual pleasure
Comment #2 by Kitt60 in response to Tritonman ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 11:02AM
I have also been on my bi journey but only for a short time and much later in life although I have known since teenage years I liked men as much as women. Sadly my bi experience has not been to pleasant thus far. I hope thing improve soon
Comment #3 by Tritonman in response to Kitt60 ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 11:14AM
Sorry to hear that your experiences have not been pleasant
Comment #4 by Kitt60 in response to Tritonman ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 11:19AM
Don't get me wrong I have learnt a lot and am now a bit weary of people and love some of the experiences I have had. I like your comments and thought, made me think, thanks.
Comment #5 by Tritonman in response to Kitt60 ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 11:21AM
You're welcome
Comment #6 by Kitt60 in response to Tritonman ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 11:23AM
Great, sorry I don't fit your criteria for some reason but I do think you are on the money in your thoughts. Cheers.
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Comment #8 by Kitt60 in response to Old_Wood ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 12:34PM
I admire other mens cocks most probably because mine is small but I do like the look of a cock standing at attention once hard and sucking it and making him cum, so delicious.
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Comment #10 by Kitt60 in response to Old_Wood ( view post )
Posted on 7-Apr-26 1:00PM
Yep have to agree with you, its an obvious choice and lots of fun!!!
Comment #11 by Laseredfeild in response to Kitt60 ( view post )
Posted on 8-Apr-26 6:35AM
Men are better at giving head than woman,I personally believe,
Personally I prefer to suck than be sucked, dnt mind being sucked,but definitely enjoying sucking on nice hard cock ...
Posted on 8-Apr-26 8:52AM
I certainly enjoy a nice cock in my mouth for starters it seems so wonderful that we all have this great play tool to enjoy and pleasure a friend to total bliss
Comment #13 by sledge in response to Hannable ( view post )
Posted on 8-Apr-26 2:42PM
Yes getting older the bi side comes out it's just finding ines you can trust
Comment #14 by hunguy124 in response to Old_Wood ( view post )
Posted on 9-Apr-26 7:59PM
nice i have found the same
Comment #15 by Kitt60 in response to hunguy124 ( view post )
Posted on 9-Apr-26 8:00PM
And I have noticed the same.
Comment #16 by hunguy124 in response to the main topic
Posted on 9-Apr-26 8:03PM
I too have been later in experimenting with my Bi side and have truly enjoyed the journey so far. I am now alot more open with it and continuing to explore more. Have very enjoyed finding out how much i enjoy sucking a nice cut hard cock and the juices that flow from it
Comment #17 by ktt0630 in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Apr-26 7:41PM
I had a friend who I sucked at school, then got normalised by society I guess. Then i discovered that there were lots of guys who just want uncomplicated sex, and started going to porn cinemas and hanging out on the right bits of nude beaches. I love cocks and love mine being sucked too by a guy or a woman. Same for anal, male or female, a tight ass feels so good.
Comment #18 by PDC in response to the main topic
Posted on 11-Apr-26 1:44PM
Yeh its crept it over the last couple of years, initially as curiosity and then more recently experimenting. Finding it a weird one to navigate but yes there is something that appeals there.
Comment #19 by Kitt60 in response to PDC ( view post )
Posted on 11-Apr-26 2:16PM
Same here, initially curiosity and now experimenting. It is appealing in a pleasant way.
Comment #20 by sledge in response to the main topic
Posted on 29-Apr-26 11:45AM
Yes and got more so the older I get
Comment #21 by Subbum in response to the main topic
Posted on 29-Apr-26 11:58AM
I have found it to be very addictive
Comment #22 by sledge in response to Subbum ( view post )
Posted on 30-Apr-26 7:17AM
Life is to b enjoyed
Comment #23 by yourstouse1973 in response to the main topic
Posted on 30-Apr-26 5:17PM
I found it started experimenting as a part of crossdressing. I wanted to be the gurl that turned men on. It sort of took over from there. I'm also very submissive and enjoy dominant men. Essentially I want to be a cock sleeve for a man or men
Comment #24 by Danacd in response to ktt0630 ( view post )
Posted on 30-Apr-26 8:13PM
My kind of guy xx
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Comment #26 by PDC in response to yourstouse1973 ( view post )
Posted on 30-Apr-26 9:28PM
How did it go for you?
Comment #27 by yourstouse1973 in response to PDC ( view post )
Posted on 30-Apr-26 10:10PM
My search continues. Difficult to align schedules with individuals in Hamilton
Comment #28 by Me6 in response to the main topic
Posted on 1-May-26 6:03AM
Definitely bi
Comment #29 by Stanch69 in response to the main topic
Posted on 1-May-26 6:15AM
I'm in my late 50s and separated from my wife over a year ago. I started shaving my entire body and dressing Femme at home. Definitely made me feel sexy and wanted to be with a man. I hooked up with a older guy at his house while his wife was at work. It was a real thrill to get him hard while he kissed me.
Comment #30 by Me6 in response to Stanch69 ( view post )
Posted on 1-May-26 6:18AM
Nice love being femme at times
Comment #31 by Stanch69 in response to Me6 ( view post )
Posted on 1-May-26 6:23AM
It's fun and I would like to do more xxx
Comment #32 by Subbum in response to sledge ( view post )
Posted on 1-May-26 6:45AM
I like to be enjoyed
Posted on 1-May-26 6:50AM
Yes I too, discovered my bi side later in life, shame really, missed out on so much fun I could have had. Love the feeling of a delicious cut cock in my hungry mouth and tight rosebud.
Comment #34 by Curiouslyadventurous69 in response to the main topic
Posted on 16-May-26 1:14AM
I started my bi journey fairly early as i was in my teens and exploring on both sides of the fence with gals and guys.had a friend that used to visit and ww were both watching tv in my room one night and a program was playing that appeared to show a lady giving a guy a blowjob and i commented how nice it wouldve been to have her there doing it to us and my friend said that he,d suck my cock if i wanted.well one thing led to another and we both wound up naked and giving each other blowjobs.was very exciting and i found that sucking another guys cock is delicious and it all went from there to meeting up with other guys for random sex over the years as well as having a gf in between.as ive got older i find myself craving a bi/gay hookup for some uninhibited man to man pleasure.
Posted on 16-May-26 1:17AM
Well done - nice story thanks for sharing
Comment #36 by Tims in response to the main topic
Posted on 16-May-26 11:42AM
My first ever sex was when a fellow schoolboy wanked me when I was an age too young to mention on here! Then I was straight for many years, got married etc etc. But decided to try cock again about 15 years ago and now I'm committedly bi. I still have to sneak around to play behind my wife's back but managed to get out of the house last night for a foursome with three other guys. Lots of naked bodies spread over his two black leather couches - cum everywhere. It's a difficult double life, but very rewarding!
Comment #37 by sledge in response to Tims ( view post )
Posted on 16-May-26 2:10PM
Lucky man
Comment #38 by Tims in response to sledge ( view post )
Posted on 16-May-26 2:14PM
😈
Comment #39 by stockingman in response to Tims ( view post )
Posted on 16-May-26 5:00PM
Nice - good fun for all
Comment #40 by Tims in response to stockingman ( view post )
Posted on 16-May-26 5:01PM
It was a great session
Comment #41 by ktt0630 in response to Tims ( view post )
Posted on 16-May-26 7:46PM
Sounds like great fun
Posted on 17-May-26 7:14AM
You,re welcome and thankyou for your comment.
Posted on 17-May-26 7:20AM
Yup being bi isnt something that just goes away or that we grow out of so good on you for following your urges,desires and mind to explore again.
Posted on 17-May-26 7:24AM
So true it never disappears alway there the urge. So lucky.
Posted on 17-May-26 7:25AM
I totally ageee
Comment #46 by Whynotu in response to the main topic
Posted on 17-May-26 10:48AM
I didn't really think about mm stuff till after I became a widower and found myself curious...I joined a dating site and was immediately swamped by messages, I was surprised to find there was so much local interest. Over the last 6 years I've met many guys, (local and from all over the country).. some more than once and I've enjoyed most of the experiences...no regrets..
Comment #47 by Tritonman in response to Whynotu ( view post )
Posted on 17-May-26 12:29PM
Great to hear. Pleased that you are enjoying yourself m2m
Comment #48 by new-bi in response to the main topic
Posted on 17-May-26 2:42PM
My first experience most certainly not of my my choosing (not that I hadn't thought about it beforehand) but it did open my eyes to try more when it was, and when I was able to I enjoyed myself a lot in that more relaxed than I ever did and have with a female although I do prefer females for relationships, it is an awesome experience and I am open about being bisexual although I did not act on all that much, or have much luck finding someone.

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