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What are you looking for?
Discussion - started by Pom, posted on 9-Oct-19 7:09AM
Good morning to you all.
Ok I'm putting it out there to you all on here.
What are you actually looking for?
Are you single and looking for a relationship or are you married and looking for some fun on the side?
Maybe your a couple and want to spice up your time in the bedroom...
Either way most of us on here are all looking for the same thing which is some fun times in the bedroom wouldn't you agree?
So why is it so hard to meet people on here after all we are all looking for the same thing.
The amount of messages I have sent over the years and have very little response in return or a simple "No Thanks"
I'm not asking for a hand in marriage!
Be interesting hearing your experiences please.
Thankyou for your time.

Showing comments 1 through 43 out of 43 comments

Comment #1 by G-Man in response to the main topic
Posted on 9-Oct-19 5:28PM
Im married and looking for extra fun. Wife doesn't know. We have great sex but it is always too long between drinks unfortunately. Not had much luck on here. Lots looking but not much happening for me anyway. Most couples looking for 9 plus inches which certainly counts me out. Not many active females in the Waikato area and not too many couples looking for an extra bloke. I travel around the Waikato Bay of Plenty and Coromandel areas for work but still have very little luck. Starting to think it's me
Cheers G
Comment #2 by Nersayus in response to the main topic
Posted on 9-Oct-19 5:46PM
A hard cock and a good safe fun nsa fuck for an hour or two with a likeminded safe, same, shorter and confident guy whose company I enjoy.

Would think I'm asking for the moon some days though. Lots of people good at offering, or telling me what I want to hear but frequently falls over (often literaly) on me in person.
Maybe I have special cock shrinking kryptonite or something.

I utterly disagree we are all looking for the same thing. Actually we all have varying preferences and are looking to find people who fit those - not every man and his dog on here does that for me. Something incredibly poorly respected by most men.
Comment #3 by rural_wangas in response to G-Man ( view post )
Posted on 9-Oct-19 5:42PM
Ideally regular fun. But hard to get repeat business when you are out in the sticks like us. We have a few semi-regulars who we have been seeing over the years - like once or twice a year maybe. If the person clicks with L she is up to regular one on ones as well. Haven't had one of those for a few years now.
Comment #4 by G-Man in response to rural_wangas ( view post )
Posted on 9-Oct-19 5:47PM
Would love to find a couple like you guys thats for sure. I follow your posts and perve at your pics (hope that is ok) . I click with most people I meet as Im very easy going but just need that first step to be taken and an opportunity to be given/offered.
Comment #5 by G-Man in response to Nersayus ( view post )
Posted on 9-Oct-19 5:50PM
. Does just seem bizarre some days doesn't it. It does surprise me though looking at your profile. I would have thought your calendar would be jam packed for sure. Xx G
Comment #6 by Nersayus in response to G-Man ( view post )
Posted on 9-Oct-19 5:51PM
I dont have a problem getting offers, just with the follow through. I have a problem with people not paying attention to my interests and then not ending up being compatible in person.
Comment #7 by GoingOnce in response to the main topic
Posted on 9-Oct-19 7:17PM
I'm single! I've never really thought about having a relationship. But after thinking about it for like 5 seconds I think I would love to have a girlfriend! Or like a regular fuck friend

I don't really know what I'm looking for... I know what I'm not looking for though ;)

I've been on NZP for quite a while now. I've had a few offers from couples and such. But I've had to turn them down unfortunately. I haven't had any real offers from woman. I used to get he occasional fake girl message me.

I rarely send messages first these days. But when I do. I still don't get a reply back haha :) I usually only message people first that look / sound confident. I find it hard to write a decent first message when people don't have much about themselves or their interests on their profile.
Comment #8 by Cheekies in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Oct-19 8:18AM
I aim to find connections and friendships outside of my professional and social circles. On my travels Ive been fortunate enough to have met many people from the North and South Island through NZP it can be quite the wonderful network. There are a handful of people I still aim on meeting, they know who they are, timing is everything for me. Id like to have a regular local consistent fwb to scratch that sexual itch as my life can be chaotically busy at the best of times
Comment #9 by Miss_ayla in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Oct-19 12:46PM
Listen to the women in this post, sums it up. I just want a good hard fuck. I also have roots where it's sounds great but in person they are shy or lied about something. I've got a couple guys that I fuck on an infrequent basis, sometimes that satisfies me and I don't need to keep looking, but I hate the thought of missing out on a great potential fuckbud. I don't necessarily need to connect on a friend level but when I fuck (outside of my marriage) I am completely just myself which can be a bit brash, I swear a bit and I'm confident in my body. I think I intimidate some men which is ironic because I'm after a firm hand myself.
Comment #10 by Kotuku2 in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Oct-19 1:41PM
Gosh I totally agree! I live with a lovely woman and have no intention of leaving her but for health reasons she is unable to have sex. So half the women on this site say Im a bad person??? For gods sake Im an an incredibly loyal person who still wants to have some sexual excitement ..... I just dont get it ;(
Comment #11 by gypsyswingers in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Oct-19 1:42PM
hi we are looking for couples or single girls for good hard nsa sex we travel around full time so don't have time to make friends just tap and gap and off to the next town
Comment #12 by rural_wangas in response to Kotuku2 ( view post )
Posted on 10-Oct-19 2:05PM
I would say half, if not more, of the people we met off here are similar to you in many ways. One guy we know has not had sex with his wife in a decade. He is/was climbing the wall.
Comment #13 by Angus3000 in response to Kotuku2 ( view post )
Posted on 10-Oct-19 3:44PM
Yes it's easy to judge and think you have the moral high ground until you've had to step in those shoes. I go on hunting trips with friends, I go to pub with people from work, I fuck escorts sometimes. Really, why are any of these interactions with other humans morally incorrect? Whose rules? I have to stop before I get wound up here...
Comment #14 by Nersayus in response to Angus3000 ( view post )
Posted on 10-Oct-19 4:00PM
I dont give a fuck about what other people do frankly.

For me its pretty damn simple tho. If I'm hiding it from my husband - hunting trip, new shoes or fucking a stranger - it crosses my personal line into not ok. That's not a person I want to be, and not a relationship I want to have.

Other people have different lines, different lives and different realities. What my lines are for me dont impact on the decisions other people should make.

I do think you should know what YOUR own lines are - and consider within a relationship if your decisions impact on others health or wellbeing. But no one, literally no one, has the right to make that choice for you.
Comment #15 by Angus3000 in response to Nersayus ( view post )
Posted on 10-Oct-19 5:41PM
Yep. Be careful what you do and why you do it. Where that line lies is dictated by contrary forces at times and (for me) is always going to be a compromise, and the outcome can be figuratively and literally life and death for some. Who gets to my age in this country that hasnt been touched by suicide where on the surface you look at it and go wtf why.? People are driven by invisible forces which sometimes are difficult to resolve and have co-existing.

Im happy with where Im at and my line gives the best result for me and those around me. Others may infer Im a cunt  thats AOK. But its a sore point for me to see anyone believing they need to do X Y or Z (because of what??) when that solution may not work for them and their people, and may have just the opposite result of fucking everything up for everyone for no good reason. Think what the best solution is in your situation and consider everyones reality is unique.
Comment #16 by nelson03 in response to Nersayus ( view post )
Posted on 10-Oct-19 6:01PM
well said
Comment #17 by Outherebogan in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Oct-19 6:16PM
I'm ya basic rough and ready old biker sort of dude , couldn't really give a fuck what people think about me as I'm comfortable in who I am . I'm not gay and have no thoughts on ever trying it , but am basically keen on checking most other things out , and if all else fails ... Got the old bike to chuck a leg over
Comment #18 by Cum_Connoisseur in response to the main topic
Posted on 10-Oct-19 8:08PM
Initially I just wanted to suck some dick and I'd offer off the bat to a lot of people that messaged me. It was apparently very suspicious, unattractive and/or unwanted and I got rejected/no show almost always, literally needing to convince guys to meet me.

Seemed like a joke so now I'm much more standoff-ish, selfish and super particular about who I respond to. Looking for likeable, serious to meet and willing to try new things. That being said, I've already found that from here and it's great and ongoing for the mean time.
Comment #19 by Calypso122 in response to Nersayus ( view post )
Posted on 10-Oct-19 9:49PM
Trust me it's not just you although it doesn't happen to me often it has happened nobody likes a limp
Comment #20 by danni in response to the main topic
Posted on 12-Oct-19 9:53AM
Really im jst looking for extra fun
Its a great feeling meeting a stranger for the first time knowing you both want to get laid then leave no questions asked
Its such a turn on
Comment #21 by kiwivoy69 in response to the main topic
Posted on 13-Oct-19 11:39PM
I'm looking for friends with benefits that can help pass the time between shifts at work. I have lots of time to kill most days.
Comment #22 by Chchbooblover in response to the main topic
Posted on 14-Oct-19 2:27PM
Im looking for a physical and mental connection.
Im married and love my wife, but she has an extremely low sex drive and is very vanilla, so sex is few and far between and when it does happen its not very exciting. So Im looking for a physical and mental connection with someone.
Something that is very hard to find, especially being a bit of an introvert
Comment #23 by radish in response to the main topic
Posted on 14-Oct-19 7:01PM
All good reasons to be here! I've been on NZP for years, off and on, and I have met some fantastic people and formed some strong and passionate relationships. But basically, I love sex in all its forms and as I travel regularly,finding some like-minded company is always high on my list. It doesn't have to end in bed; a drink, dinner and chat is always welcome ... but if it does end in bed, even better. And if we agree to meet, I will be there.
Comment #24 by Makita in response to the main topic
Posted on 18-Oct-19 5:18PM
I would love to join a couple for 3some or group sex even just the odd random ladie but this place doesn't really offer this just slot of words no action.
Or maybe it's just Hamilton
Comment #25 by Bayofplentymark in response to the main topic
Posted on 18-Oct-19 5:31PM
I'm looking for primarily a male friend/CD into a little kink, I've been wanting to explore the full sexual spectrum, I have done everything I can possibly think of with women over my lifetime and now want to enjoy my bi side to its fullest,my wife was annoyed that this is what I want but has been supportive to date and in time I hope to be able to share my experiences with her
Comment #26 by Chubbylover in response to the main topic
Posted on 23-Oct-19 2:11PM
Well not what I'm looking for, but what my Mistresses want. They wanna pimp out my virgin tranny mouth to any and all cummers. . Not sure I'm ok with that. But is there desire. At least they have a nice dress and slutty under garments for me to wear.
Comment #27 by givinglight in response to the main topic
Posted on 1-Nov-19 11:32AM
A down to earth, easygoing connexion, with a bit of friendship thrown into the mix, good energetic humping either side of hump day. repeat. i remeain open to the forming and strengthening of bonds, however choose to remain single and non romantically entangled, till i feel its time and the right person is present, for more.
Comment #28 by Moisttongue in response to the main topic
Posted on 7-Nov-19 5:36AM
I'm singie and looking for mutual play with a trannie or smooth young lad shaven and wears panty
Comment #29 by adhdmademedoit in response to the main topic
Posted on 7-Nov-19 6:24AM
Good chat for sure.
I have joined to explore my fantasies and fetishes with like minded people. I want to talk about and make sense of them and maybe even share some experiences. I think this is an awesome place if you have some "unorthodox" kinks and want to explore them in a safe, friendly and non judgmental space.
Posted on 7-Nov-19 7:48AM
Fetlife is even better
Comment #31 by Miss_ayla in response to kiwivoy69 ( view post )
Posted on 7-Nov-19 10:59AM
I'd kinda disagree with that, yes it's got a larger, international base, so there's more things out there but nzp is amazing for actual real life encounters.
Posted on 7-Nov-19 11:19AM
I'll second that, it's easier to connect with people for specific chat because of how their profiling is designed (but actually meeting people is far less successful in my experience). But if you compare fl to specific topic forums or even better chat partnering forums fl is like taking a boat across the world instead of taking a flight so it's trash both ways.
comment #33 was clobbered
Posted on 7-Nov-19 12:10PM
The problem with all sites is that 1st meeting... I've had nothing from here at all... the few people that are active in HB don't seem to want to meet...
I'm trying to get over to see miss_ayla but have had too much on lately...
Comment #35 by Clearwater in response to kiwivoy69 ( view post )
Posted on 7-Nov-19 12:12PM
I'm always ready
Comment #36 by Erotic_Genie in response to the main topic
Posted on 7-Nov-19 1:47PM
Looking for a good fuckin time, lots of laughter, fun and plenty of pussy eating. Been out of the relationship game for ages and I am tired of being fucked over so I want to do the fucking. But most of all eating pussy till I am full. Hard to find someone genuine nowadays that wants it as much as you. Been back on here for a little and I haven't even had a boo from anyone no one even replys to their messages. Where are the good woman who love their pussy eaten out carefully. Hm I am hungry just of thinking about it. :)
Comment #37 by Wewillsee in response to the main topic
Posted on 7-Nov-19 4:52PM
Im looking for a relationship
Comment #38 by Miss_ayla in response to Wewillsee ( view post )
Posted on 7-Nov-19 4:56PM
If commitment and loyalty are important for you in a relationship, I'd possibly not look for a relationship from here, as I have never been turned down by a taken man. Just my opinion. I'm sure there are men who are also looking for a lady here, for more than sex.
Comment #39 by givinglight in response to the main topic
Posted on 9-Nov-19 10:44PM
Not too much, just looking at something easygoing and mutually fun. converations activities can be a good thing too, while youre at it ;)
Comment #40 by skinnie in response to kiwivoy69 ( view post )
Posted on 10-Nov-19 7:34PM
yes agree im on fetlife
Comment #41 by Calypso122 in response to skinnie ( view post )
Posted on 13-Nov-19 7:48PM
Really there are some interesting people but then there are a lot of boring people on there especially in NZ and especially the local Doms
Comment #42 by murano in response to Kotuku2 ( view post )
Posted on 13-Nov-19 8:23PM
Quite a sensible reason to be on here. Nobody should judge you..Everyone has needs..
Comment #43 by kiwivoy69 in response to Calypso122 ( view post )
Posted on 14-Nov-19 7:49AM
The local HB scene is very cliquey for supposedly open minded people...

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