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It's not a new thing. I've done events, but it was years ago under my old name. I've found a few reasons
1. People are time wasters with no intention of carry through/catfish.
2. They chicken out, usually a self confidence thing.
3. Something genuinely got in the way but they are too shit to let people know.

I organised a couple of events and cancelled them with a week or so to go...reasons were:
1. I was concerned for safety after receiving direct messages that I thought were inappropriate
2. I got abused for having criteria on the gathering
3. I had someone demand to stay in the hotel room if they came to the event.

I just decided both times it was too risky for me.

I was considering hosting at my house, but I will not do that in a million years given the way I was spoken to.

Friend you took the right decision, look after yourself and the safety of others

Totally agree
I host odd bi gay cd trans party, obviously I've been lucky with any mail I've had regarding the event ( yes host in our home ) & had no issues, if had issues those ppl would be blocked ....

Yep agree.

It is just some immature people's idea of fun! The usual timewasters you will find on this page.

Its certainly a challenge. We've hosted several parties recently and the real problem is finding enough genuine people who actually turn up. The most recent one looked a perfect balance of 5 women and 8 guys but only a handful turned up on the night, including a young couple who were unprepared for the reality of playtime (we did what we could to make them comfortable but they arrived late after the rest of us had got naked so missed the ice-breaking clothes-on chatting). It was fun but you just have to be prepared to "overbook" and be disappointed. We give potential attendees one go and if they fail to show or don't bother to get in touch, they don't get another go.

Yes certainly can be challenging,
& Unfortunately will always get the time wasters .... Ask questions but have no intention of turning up ; they get blocked from my profile asap ) no 2nd chance ....

i guess any one can set behind the screen and put any none exsiting event without the intention of even putting every thing in place ,
i hold a very success event last week end and had encounter some proplem too with some times wasters as well but end of the day it was a success with all the people whom joined us and i thank every one for sticking to the rules and made that night a real fun.

Events can be very rewarding when get good response & support
I've host different style of events over the years & some have been a roaring success & some have been dismal ....
But good thing is those that come do appreciate the chance to be attending & that's always awesome result !

If there is a repeat event, with luck a known group of reliable, respectable attendee's can be identified - so that portion can at least be relied on to turn up, with just new/unknowns to be managed!

Yes would be great & if that was to happen then would be great
& Hopefully along the way, introduce new lol to the party scene !

Your last event was very enjoyable Laserfield, my first Bi party.
Some great conversation and the fun had was also very enjoyable. Hopefully I may be on the list for the next one.

Thanks Sargent, pleased you enjoyed
Your welcome anytime 😊😉

Fantastic.

it usually goes something like Invite 20, get 12 RSVPs and two show up.

We usually do pre paid, gives us better numbers confirmed
Only charge to cover costs ...

your mid-party feeds are legendary!

Thanks, we aim to be good hosts
& Nice to have nibbles while drinking & playing

wellington had many parties in the past not much now but put it on midweek during the daytime may drop off any dreamers

Mid-week day time no good for me , unfortunately it's work before pleasure ....

Too true! We're hosting one on 9 Jan in Auckland, aiming for 20 to actually be there so have invited 4 or so. Hope the desired will be there on the night (anyone reading this should check it out under events).