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Has anyone Gone longer than 3 months without sex?
Discussion - started by Jackrabbit271, posted on 27-Jan-22 3:14PM
Anyone gone longer than 3 months without sex? How long is too long

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Comment #13 by Sceptical in response to the main topic
Posted on 31-Jan-22 8:30AM
2 plus years … but I’m back now 🤣
Comment #14 by RyanofOtaki in response to the main topic
Posted on 31-Jan-22 9:40PM
Not had any since the world was first introduced to covid. Actually, was the Easter prior.
Comment #15 by Handy in response to the main topic
Posted on 31-Jan-22 10:11PM
Yip just on two years now
Comment #16 by Paknsavetrolley in response to the main topic
Posted on 1-Feb-22 5:43PM
Holy fuck
Some of these time frames are lengthy!!!!

Why though? Specific reasons? Insight? Thoughts?
I’m curious…….

Are there any health, mental, emotional consequences?
Comment #17 by chchswing in response to the main topic
Posted on 1-Feb-22 6:00PM
I'm not sure I'm in the right place...I thought this was a hook up sex site...in saying that I'm finding this place very slow and challenging. There seems to be a lot of females on here that are great at chatting but not so keen on the meet. Anyone else finding this...
Posted on 1-Feb-22 7:54PM
I reckon. I get depressed and cranky if it’s a week or 2. Had a few droughts from time to time but not long
Comment #19 by 01James in response to chchswing ( view post )
Posted on 1-Feb-22 11:48PM
I guess it's the 'lyshop' thing in play. There are so many males on here, they (couples/females) can be highly picky, whereas we have to somehow find a way to appear at the top of the pile.
Posted on 2-Feb-22 8:01AM
You’re spot on correct
Appearing to be a jewel amongst the junk or similar
I have over Ninety unread messages currently
That’s just how it is for females on all online sites, spoilt for choice
Comment #21 by Yungguy in response to the main topic
Posted on 2-Feb-22 8:19AM
Yeah I quite often go without sex for that long even tho I'd like to have sex all the time it doesn't happen mostly because of my work and quiet busy I don't have time to be messaging girls all the time I know it's not like I never have sex again but the longer I go without it the more dirty my mind gets
Comment #22 by Phillmein in response to the main topic
Posted on 2-Feb-22 5:30PM
13 years 4 of those without even a wank
Comment #23 by Kassie_2022 in response to the main topic
Posted on 2-Feb-22 6:12PM
😱 incredible responses of going without for so long, I don't want this to be me. I've just come out of a long term relationship. I mean, I'm emotionally unavailable, but doesn't mean I want to go without.
Posted on 2-Feb-22 8:45PM
I feel the same too
Not even for the out of a long term reason which I understand

Reading above:
I’ve summised life reasons, unavailability or not prioritised ….

Interesting insight though
Posted on 2-Feb-22 9:30PM
They say exercise releases dopamine and serotonin. So does sex, right?
Everyone's been doing it wrong, it's supposed to be "eat healthy and sex" not "eat healthy and exercise" 🙊 haha, I'm just being cheeky.
Good insight alright tho.
Posted on 3-Feb-22 1:25AM
but if they are unopened? How do you know they are not the 'jewel in the junk'?
Comment #27 by Down2fuck in response to 01James ( view post )
Posted on 3-Feb-22 3:12AM
Two months 2weeks now so if u can erouse me u can cum in me age no barrier cuddly and confidents turns me on
Comment #28 by toejoe in response to the main topic
Posted on 4-Feb-22 12:11AM
Coming up 4 years now
Comment #29 by chchswing in response to 01James ( view post )
Posted on 4-Feb-22 1:33PM
Interestingly another site isn't like this tho so got me beat. Guys no problem at all
Comment #30 by FrequentFun in response to the main topic
Posted on 5-Feb-22 12:02AM
Prior to joining sites just over two years ago I had a sex drought (other than self assisted for sanity sake) of eight or nine years. That being due to still existing 'it's complicated' relationship status i.e. separate rooms with no sex or intimacy because of health issue related E.D.Thank f**k for sex sites!
Posted on 5-Feb-22 4:28PM
Which sites do you find the best ?
Comment #32 by Calypso122 in response to the main topic
Posted on 5-Feb-22 8:27PM
2 years by choice due to being pregnant and single and then having a baby, sex was the last thing on my mind.
Posted on 5-Feb-22 9:03PM
NZP has been the most lucrative for me 😊
Originally joined NaughtyDating Club.com (run from the Isle of Man, U.K.) Considerably more expensive, HEAPS of site generated messages, renders it pretty much useless unless you are a VIP and as stated on some other posts on here same problems re high ratio of guys to gals 🤷‍♀️
Had a nosy at KS but didn't like it personally.
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Comment #35 by james_nz in response to the main topic
Posted on 6-Feb-22 7:20PM
I had body image issues in my twenties and a bout of severe depression and anxiety so went close to 5 years without putting myself out there.

Datings a lot harder now with apps and a few images of you being the first impression so without much luck there I went and got proper treatment and pushed myself to go to more social events(meetup.com local groups etc) and eventually found some extroverts who took a liking to me that added me into their social circles and led to meeting partners I would date.
Comment #36 by Give_n_Take in response to james_nz ( view post )
Posted on 8-Feb-22 10:56PM
James ... firstly, this is not an uncommon problem, but you have made a great impression on me for being so open and honest ... thanks !!

Secondly, I think you're absolutely right in saying a lot of it, especially with phone apps like Tinder, it's all about looks ... and not much brain activity !!

I've heard a lot of "stories" about Tinder & similar, but do have to wonder how many are actually for real, and whether the STD rate is keeping pace with the Covid cases if they are

Glad you got the help you needed and made the most of it ... pats on the back mate !!
Comment #37 by OFender in response to james_nz ( view post )
Posted on 9-Feb-22 11:42AM
Tinder and similar apps are for Pretty Young Things to hookup, no use for most of us middle aged and horny peeps, I reckon.
There are no easy answers, so just get out there and talk to people, meet people, go places. At least you'll have fun, even if you don't get laid.

**
I don't know the longest I have gone without, but anything over a fortnight is far too long nowadays
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Comment #39 by Blowyhoey in response to the main topic
Posted on 16-May-22 11:05PM
I'm an ex Cuckold

So I've gone months without being allowed to cum or even touch myself.... My partner on the other hand, yeah she was satisfied
Comment #40 by Kiwi1 in response to 01James ( view post )
Posted on 17-May-22 7:16PM
Well said,exactly
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Comment #42 by jax12 in response to the main topic
Posted on 18-May-22 7:38PM
5 Years for Female Sex! 2 for MtM
Comment #43 by Spider-Man in response to the main topic
Posted on 21-Jun-22 12:21PM
2.1/2 yrs for me..
Small town an plus I have self respect

Comment #44 by Marcline in response to chchswing ( view post )
Posted on 22-Jun-22 9:25AM
Well you seem to chat, most can't even say " thanks but no thanks ". I use to write quite a bit, but now it short. " can you write, if so message me."
Comment #45 by ajsone in response to the main topic
Posted on 23-Jun-22 9:57PM
I have gone without for about a yr now because of prostate cancer radiation treatment killing sex drive and erection functions. Tho now and again have woken up with an erection so proves it's mind over matter really.
Comment #46 by ajsone in response to ajsone ( view post )
Posted on 26-Jun-22 7:54AM
I too relied on apps tinder,Grindr and did well, but have aged out now and really enjoy NZP as it has real people who will have a conversation either by mail or web now. The groups are cool and wide ranges of discussions, galleries to view and news updates. This way outshines apps to me.
Comment #47 by Hannable in response to ajsone ( view post )
Posted on 26-Jun-22 9:14AM
it has been 10 years since I last had any contact with a female of any age but saying that I have been used for pleasure by several guys
Comment #48 by Kobe in response to the main topic
Posted on 6-Jul-22 4:03PM
It's been I we a year for me way two long help on me chch
Comment #49 by Jaxsonnz in response to the main topic
Posted on 13-Jul-22 11:56AM
4 years with my partner due to her plumbing issues and surgery. What gets me though is I would have no problem if she used a vibrator with no penetration and manually stimulated me. But not even that happens. So I am grateful for a regular escort I see a few times a year after having no action for 2 years
Posted on 13-Jul-22 12:08PM
Yeah similar story for me. None at home anymore.
Comment #51 by Me6 in response to Mrpussylicker ( view post )
Posted on 13-Jul-22 3:15PM
Same with me nothing at home anymore
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Comment #53 by Funfuks4us in response to goodboy ( view post )
Posted on 13-Jul-22 7:33PM
True 👍
Comment #54 by Funfuks4us in response to chchswing ( view post )
Posted on 13-Jul-22 7:38PM
I'm feeling the same man....I guess they hav already been scared off...by boys with girls names..
Comment #55 by domseka in response to Funfuks4us ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jul-22 7:45PM
"the shortest prison sentence is 3 months "who told ya that??
Comment #56 by Unidentified in response to the main topic
Posted on 15-Jul-22 9:18PM
Yup sure have.....
Comment #57 by Cd_katie in response to the main topic
Posted on 15-Jul-22 9:47PM
Yup. Sure have.
Comment #58 by darstardly-deeds in response to the main topic
Posted on 17-Jul-22 9:58AM
Way longer
Comment #59 by HeyYou_NZ in response to the main topic
Posted on 20-Jul-22 8:13PM
Last 6 years when with previous partner (except brief period 4 years ago when she wanted to get pregnant, very missionary / clinical / boring / potato sack really)
And about 2 years now since split up

I figure I'm now officially a born again virgin it's been so bloody long

That's why I recently joined NZP, but this seems to be a bit of a fizzer so far.

Not one response from females yet despite the likes and messages I've sent

Don't think I'll die with a smile on me face either
Comment #60 by voyeurone in response to the main topic
Posted on 29-Jul-22 8:39PM
Sex ????? Whats sex??????
Comment #61 by faremont in response to the main topic
Posted on 3-Aug-22 11:05AM
I my 20's I went 5 years without meeting anyone, just solo work and I swore that would never happen again so I have been on here over 1 years and have got a good bunch of fukbuds so I get regular sex....sometimes too much (sorry if that sounds stupid) but its so good for health reasons and mentally as well.
Comment #62 by Wanttohavefun in response to the main topic
Posted on 3-Aug-22 12:26PM
my last was 5 months not long ago an then longest was 6 months !

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