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Casual, meaningless sex? Or something more substantial?

Discussion - started by Katerina, posted on 18-Nov-25 8:08PM

I'm just asking, because I'm a curious girl who asks questions.

My experience is that I've found casual, meaningless sex with inadequate men - to be exactly that - meaningless, and very unsatisfying'.

Personally, I would desire something more substantial and satisfying.

I have to say this - NZ men are pretty crap in bed anyway, so why would I personally bother with that ever again?

Now - the 'hate mail' from insecure men will come!

Does being in love mean anything to anyone anymore?

For me, love is everything. It has to be that way.

So what do you think?

Is love relevant? Or should it just be casual meaningless sex with inadequate men?

Why should any woman allow themselves to be violated by such men?

I hope I haven't bruised too many fragile male egos.

It wasn't my intention.

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Comment #1 by Biguycrom in response to the main topic

Posted on 18-Nov-25 9:01PM

Casual sex doesn’t have to be meaningless. Some women might just be as happy for causal sex as men are, not everyone wants the long term relationship but a regular booty call could be satisfying enough for some.
May I suggest if you find men inadequate and crap in bed then perhaps you need to be upfront about your expectations and then you might be on a chance to find the most qualified man to meet your requirements.
I too have been disappointed in men’s performance so I understand your point. But when you find the right one, trust me I did, and I couldn’t walk properly for three days.

Comment #2 by Katerina in response to Biguycrom ( view post )

Posted on 18-Nov-25 9:05PM

If woman are happy to do it, great for them! Hooray!

I agree, I should probably state clearly in my profile - "Do not be crap in bed".
Sure, that will work, huh?

Comment #3 by wooks in response to Katerina ( view post )

Posted on 18-Nov-25 9:16PM

Sure you could ... but you would need to define crap

Comment #4 by Katerina in response to wooks ( view post )

Posted on 18-Nov-25 9:18PM

Crap = inept, inadequate. Crap.

Comment #5 by wooks in response to Katerina ( view post )

Posted on 18-Nov-25 9:24PM

Quite subjective, of course

Comment #6 by Katerina in response to wooks ( view post )

Posted on 18-Nov-25 9:25PM

Everything is subjective until you die.

comment #7 was clobbered

Comment #8 by Cheekies in response to the main topic

Posted on 19-Nov-25 5:41AM

Casual sex has its place, regardless of whether it involves men or women our sex industry is evidence of that. Neither gender is exempt from disappointing or inadequate experiences, men also deal with their fair share of unfulfilling encounters with women.

Love itself is ambiguous and subjective, meaning different things to different people. Personally, I prefer forming a genuine connection with a man building trust and understanding long before love becomes part of the picture. But that’s just what feels right for me.

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