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How would you define friends with benefits
Discussion - started by kiwiguy1119, posted on 6-Feb-18 8:02AM
What does friends with benefits mean to you

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Posted on 10-Feb-18 6:05AM
but but, we are already friends, are we not ?
Posted on 10-Feb-18 7:56AM
Posted on 10-Feb-18 9:47AM
, I do enjoy a nice pair of legs although not sure that i have a foot fetish.

mmmm, drinkies sounds like start.
Posted on 10-Feb-18 9:58AM
... now your just thinking with wrong brain...

Just making a point... with wee touch of sarcasm on edges
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:05AM
brain is in gear for the meet and greet.....don't upset the synchronisation., don't want to stall now that the lights are green.

sarcasm doesn't become a person of your class.
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:20AM
..... .... ....

Brain in gear always a good move...
Stalling at a green light never a good look...
Don't upset the synchronisation very good like that
sarcasm always looses a touch of emphasis when have to say ...was ..
But hey its a hovering in the best of us.
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:26AM
sorry you had to say....don't really pick up on sarcasm unless it jumps out and slaps me.

guess i'm just too cruisy and mellow.
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:33AM
Maybe needed more emoticons or !!!!!!! Around. And sometimes just loses all translation in here from brain to written word

Its OK cruisy an excellent place to be for you and you lady. .. pleased for you dude
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:40AM
yep.....we extremely happy despite one person always trying to undermine, who shall remain nameless but that person knows whom i'm referring to.
we refuse to rise to the bait.
both of us really looking forward to our couples group afternoon today.
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:49AM
And what you got planed for after as well
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:56AM
Why of course....should be a great evening.
Posted on 10-Feb-18 3:37PM
Good for you so profile not honest as you only play as a couple
Comment #40 by Vulpes in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 10-Feb-18 4:21PM
I disagree. FWB is great if you're both on the same page. I have 2 FWBs. Works for us.
Comment #41 by Vulpes in response to MrConfused ( view post )
Posted on 10-Feb-18 4:22PM
Never happened in almost 3 years of FWB for me.
Comment #42 by Cherub in response to Vulpes ( view post )
Posted on 10-Feb-18 6:58PM
It does .... well I'll be!! They know there's another that on fwb page too!?

So you have a friends thing going on outside the sheets too. .. in real life public friend kinda thing. ...
Comment #43 by Cherub in response to bruce62 ( view post )
Posted on 10-Feb-18 7:34PM
Hey brucey! not sure that's any of your business

It's a meet and greet with people from here... there is never any set course to what happens 'in the after' and do believe it's in a public place ... casual meet and greet pure and simple
Comment #44 by bruce62 in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 10-Feb-18 10:32PM
yes you are right
Comment #45 by hotntasty in response to the main topic
Posted on 11-Feb-18 11:10AM
A friend you have sex with... no expectations... no strings.. no jealousy... trust... satisfaction... someone u see once in a while... simple relationship
Comment #46 by Cherub in response to hotntasty ( view post )
Posted on 11-Feb-18 4:12PM
A fuck buddy ....
Comment #47 by bruce62 in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 11-Feb-18 6:25PM
Yes one name for it
Comment #48 by Vulpes in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 28-Apr-18 3:50PM
Yup. They both know about each other. Sometimes we go out for coffee, speedway or share a meal. It's about having good communication skills.
Comment #49 by Cherub in response to Vulpes ( view post )
Posted on 28-Apr-18 11:51PM

All three four or however more together out to dinner etc wow ... right well lucky you
(mmm !!)

So it's all just about having good communication skills. .. wow never realized was that easy to keep all quarters of equations OK with everyone else. ...
Posted on 29-Apr-18 11:53AM
I think fwb is what works for the individuals involved...what one "couple" (for want of a better word) would see as genuine friendship with benefits others may disagree. I think it's all to do with the personal connection two people have. The details of the situation could be identical but the person connection between two people can be different compared to others in similar situations. This is where I think labelling things can be there are many variables to be considered and can be different for everybody.
Posted on 29-Apr-18 2:02PM
I totally agree
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:32PM
true to some of that ....

But think on this.....
2 involved in a actual fwb liason can still see it on a different basis BECAUSE male and female brain and sooooo many fudge truth of every situation to suit themselves. .. so never open and truthful EVER. (No matter how much they profess to be telling the truth )And because it's just a FUCK and your not in there living with them you NEVER know the truth now do you girls!!?.. no matter how much you chat and talk with them they Always hide things. ... So it's just a FUCK whether it's a one time thing or on going to ultimately suit his life
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:40PM
Was just down in Wellington Cc... hell we could have met for a coffee and gone for a walk along Petone foreshore was lovely weather.... next time
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:40PM
I won't argue with that as you can't accept that not everyone is deceitful and self serving. You're entitled to your opinion...I'm happy with my fwb and have no issues whatsoever.
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:46PM
Lucky young lady then

Time and familiarity eeecks away at foundations fuck them while you have it miss
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:46PM
It was great weather. I've had a busy weekend.
Comment #57 by Pampurr in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:50PM
Anybody who starts a pattern of making it suit them only isn't good fwb material. Soon as I spot that happening,I let them know I've noticed. How they react decides whether I continue seeing them or not.

I laugh when people say fwb is a NSA arrangement. It's not. You both agree to see each other when convenient for both, which makes it a two way street. Don't like that idea, then stick to one night stands. Simple.

Of course neither one will know aspects of the other's life. That's why it's fwb and not a step up to a full on romantic relationship. You take your chances on that but you do have the power to walk away if something sparks off one of your red flags.

An old friend once told me, just remember, one is always smarter than the other. Make sure it's you
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:50PM
Weather not so good on weekend was lot better during the week and walking good for all especially in perfect weather and lovely location. ..
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:52PM
Yeah we live in a beautiful spot. It is nice out there.
Posted on 29-Apr-18 6:57PM
I've been with him over a year now...we have sussed out most things but communicate well and respect each other also.
Comment #61 by Cherub in response to Pampurr ( view post )
Posted on 29-Apr-18 7:04PM
absolutely with you on the be the savy one...

A few just dig hole bigger and bigger for themselves when they under estimate the intellect of a woman and think glossing over details when asked is clever

Hey its just a label that lots on here use to soften edge - when really its just a casual fuck - no.matter how often in attendance
And yeah everyone sees it how they want ...
Posted on 29-Apr-18 7:04PM
not always but will admit when it's good it is nice
Posted on 29-Apr-18 7:08PM
Oh well I love it even on a bad day
Posted on 29-Apr-18 7:11PM
guess have to say that cause you live it...
Posted on 6-May-18 8:19AM
That's right I do and I love everything about it.
Comment #66 by luvbignipples in response to the main topic
Posted on 6-May-18 4:24PM
A friend with weed is a friend indeed
A friend with tits and all the rest
Posted on 6-May-18 6:16PM
There are FWB thats friends frist and there are fuck buddys
Comment #68 by Vulpes in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:26PM
So cynical. I sense you got burned and now believe all FWB arrangements are doomed. How sad. I have several FWB type relationships (picked up a couple since the last time I commented), they're all really cruisy.
Communication and self care are paramount. Pretty simple once you get the hang of it
Comment #69 by Vulpes in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:19PM
Also it's very much real life. You don't have to be living with a personal in order to trust them. You seem to be rather insecure.
Comment #70 by Vulpes in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:20PM
So you chastise what you don't understand? Do you know what cognitive dissonance is?
Comment #71 by Vulpes in response to Cherub ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:23PM
Yes, some of us hang out together. Why do you have a problem with understanding not everybody believes in monogamy, not everyone wants a committed relationship; some of us enjoy being free agents with no ties.
Comment #72 by Cherub in response to Vulpes ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:27PM
Well done you
Comment #73 by Cherub in response to Vulpes ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:28PM
Have another drink chick. ..
Comment #74 by Cherub in response to Vulpes ( view post )
Posted on 6-May-18 8:30PM
sign up here
Posted on 6-May-18 8:31PM
Well done you ...
Posted on 6-May-18 8:37PM
Thanks it's great to be happy and enjoy your life
Posted on 6-May-18 8:50PM
aye Cc....
Life is good - exercise with a view a bonus all round...

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