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Discussion - started by MrCertain, posted on 14-Jan-21 2:48PM
Does anyone else have the feeling this site is stagnating? Very few new members are joining. It would be nice to see some new blood I think.

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Comment #1 by LilyBlack in response to the main topic
Posted on 14-Jan-21 2:55PM
I took a three month break and virtually no New Faces! Discussion seems even Less Popular! Go Figure! Lily x
Comment #2 by Hooked in response to LilyBlack ( view post )
Posted on 14-Jan-21 4:57PM
Been off here for about a year, last week or so ive been back i see same old same old , pretty much got same messages from the same people asking same questions i did a year ago , keyboard mastys i reckon
Comment #3 by LilyBlack in response to Hooked ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 6:37AM
Sounds like Groundhog Day Hooked! Lily x
Comment #4 by ronswanson in response to the main topic
Posted on 14-Jan-21 6:00PM
Other sites are the same. NZP is actually more active than some of the others. Findsomeone is fading away badly. Not sure whether it's a general lack of interest or loss of trust in dating sites, or whether it's moving more to apps like Tinder.
Comment #5 by MrCertain in response to ronswanson ( view post )
Posted on 14-Jan-21 9:29PM
I think a lot of people have been burned by one or two money hungry dating sites. Hard to close your account to stop the money bleed. Not NZP by the way.
Comment #6 by Hooked in response to MrCertain ( view post )
Posted on 14-Jan-21 11:08PM
Id agree with that , some of those sites are full of dreamed up charges , some you cant even send a message without buying more coins , those sites full of fake profiles
Comment #7 by ronswanson in response to MrCertain ( view post )
Posted on 14-Jan-21 11:16PM
Agree - didn't think about that when I was typing before. Some of the women on sites like this (again not this one) won't interact with guys who are free members as not being a paid member indicates you are "not serious". But I've had experiences in the past where it's impossible to cancel an automatically recurring monthly payment unless you go through a lengthy process trying to find the instructions which then say cancellations are only received by fax (fax!) to a foreign number... I had to cancel a credit card once 'cause it was the easiest way to stop payments.
Comment #8 by Funtimes69 in response to ronswanson ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 4:05AM
We're free membership on other sites, not because we're not serious but because of the cost, one in particular has the name Kiwi in the title, is the same as "aussie" and is run out of the UK, all your fees go overseas. And the listings don't make sense there'll be one inviting you for skinnydip at the beach today, well the add will be in the middle of our southern winter haha
Comment #9 by MrCertain in response to ronswanson ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 6:55AM
They get away with it because nothing we can do. Don't imagine anyone would go to 'Fair Go' and make themselves public.
Comment #10 by Youngnfun in response to the main topic
Posted on 15-Jan-21 7:04AM
I'm new here, just signed up a couple of days ago haha
Comment #11 by MrCertain in response to Youngnfun ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 7:13AM
Ha, welcome. We need more.
Comment #12 by EB-rider in response to Funtimes69 ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 7:48AM
I'm a member of the other NZ run site.
I like the MBs there. And like here the free members get a good deal being able to email etc without cost.
Comment #13 by LilyBlack in response to Funtimes69 ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 12:50PM
Do you think that Non Subscriber's Messages are sent and received in Real Time? Or are their Messages Delayed? Lily x
Comment #14 by MasterSargeant in response to the main topic
Posted on 15-Jan-21 5:47PM
I have been on most of the sites available in NZ, Yes, find some are dodgy and other quite expensive. Am only on this one now but I continue to question myself as to why.
Been on and off for quite a few years and was quite popular until I hit the dreaded 60 years of age. Now very rarely do I get a profile view, happens on all the sites, I haven't changed, just a little older. I find age discrimination is alive and well on all the sites although most like to call it " preferences". .

Also, I feel a few quite unsavoury characters on all sites are ruining it for the majority.
Just my opinion.
Posted on 15-Jan-21 6:33PM
Not sure what you mean by age discrimination? You mean there aren't many women on here also in there 60s, or are you chasing after younger? I don't think a lack of success due to either of those scenarios constitutes discrimination, or are you meaning something else?
Posted on 15-Jan-21 6:53PM
Not meaning anything else sir. Women in their 60s also is a moot point as my profile clearly states...age and looks are not an issue.
Just think that there are far less women that do like an older gentleman that there used to be.....in fact far fewer women in general.
Maybe discrimination is the wrong word, my bad.
Posted on 15-Jan-21 6:59PM
Well written profile. Yup, I was picking up on the word 'discrimination'. It is a shame there is such an imbalance of older men vs. women on this site and others. That's just how it is I guess. Also, I wonder if your perception that things have dropped off since you hit 60, is more that you happened to get to 60 at a time when the novelty of internet dating is generally wearing off out there.
Posted on 15-Jan-21 7:06PM
You may have a point re the dropping off although I did have a swinging partner (female) until I was 63..we were quite busy. Find now that I'm single....nothing.
It is what it is I guess.
Comment #19 by Robbie63 in response to the main topic
Posted on 15-Jan-21 7:32PM
Ever since this covid19 virus thing
The dating sites have become quiet.
Even known meeting places such as parks etc are not As busy.
I think covid19 has frightened people
Away from meeting strangers and others for sex times.
Comment #20 by Funtimes69 in response to LilyBlack ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 8:12PM
Lilly I'm not sure about real time 😌
It will state so and so is on line now, check their profile and they're last on line a day ago
Comment #21 by LilyBlack in response to Funtimes69 ( view post )
Posted on 15-Jan-21 8:32PM
I understand all that but it does not necessarily mean that because they are online and send or receive message that it is delivered immediately ie Real Time. This is only in regard to non subscribers. Lily x
Comment #22 by Harrold in response to LilyBlack ( view post )
Posted on 16-Jan-21 3:14AM
I’m a non subscriber, have previously been enrolled to vote though. The message system delivers straight away but if you’re offline and receive email alerts there can be quite a delay in receiving those alerts
Comment #23 by LilyBlack in response to Harrold ( view post )
Posted on 16-Jan-21 6:54AM
Cheers Harrold! I'm No Angel! Lily x
Comment #24 by LilyBlack in response to Funtimes69 ( view post )
Posted on 17-Jan-21 6:58AM
I read in FAQs that a non subscriber can only contact one other non subscriber per day. That would suggest they cannot contact Gold Members. Also they have to Refresh their Page to be notified of any incoming Messages. A bit of useless information for you Lily x
Comment #25 by Blueskynz in response to the main topic
Posted on 17-Jan-21 9:43AM
my membership expired and really are unsure weather to continue, met some lovely people but so many people who just waste your time. maybe this should only be a paid website without a free membership....
Comment #26 by LilyBlack in response to Blueskynz ( view post )
Posted on 17-Jan-21 12:53PM
When my Membership last expired, I was a non subscriber for a while, but it is very limiting for obvious reasons. I deleted completely for a while but here I am again, not sure why. Lily x
Comment #27 by Cheekies in response to the main topic
Posted on 17-Jan-21 6:34PM
Sometimes live gets in the way. I like to keep my profile updated and relevant... most of summer is my downtime I spend it road tripping and hanging with friends and family. I check in regularly as I normally have messages from people who I click with on here. Spose we all have our seasons. If we think of the 2 degree of separation how many of us are carrying different personas on different sites???
Posted on 18-Jan-21 7:28AM
Yes. A different persona on a different site gives me more success. They have more members and a high turnover.
Comment #29 by Ktmkiwi in response to the main topic
Posted on 24-Jan-21 11:16PM
I'm new! Just trying to decide if there is loads of weirdos here
Comment #30 by Ktmkiwi in response to the main topic
Posted on 24-Jan-21 11:19PM
The site also looks like it's been the same for 20 years
Posted on 24-Jan-21 11:30PM
Hell no, it hasn't...was heaps of fun and had heaps of women up til about 5 years ago then it was taken over by guys wanting guys.
Comment #32 by Robbie63 in response to Youngnfun ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 12:42AM
Hi young fun"" be prepared to have fun with anyone"
Keep things open and answer any questions people may ask.
If you say you will meet make sure you do.
Have fun """.
Posted on 25-Jan-21 8:53AM
So is this where I find my first cock in my ass? Better get brave then
Posted on 25-Jan-21 9:21AM
Yes, you had better and don't forget to grit yr teeth.
Comment #35 by Bitheway in response to the main topic
Posted on 25-Jan-21 9:41AM
Hi everyone just thought I'd stop by and add a new face. Haven't been on any other site's having some good conversations so far
Comment #36 by Cheekies in response to Bitheway ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 10:38AM
Nice name great play on words :) Kudos :)
Comment #37 by Cheekies in response to Ktmkiwi ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 10:39AM
You looking for the weirdos-r-us on the site?
Comment #38 by Ktmkiwi in response to Cheekies ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 11:49AM
Not intentionally..... Seems to be a few eye opener conversation to a newbie!
Comment #39 by Cheekies in response to Ktmkiwi ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 12:02PM
Yup adult playground open to most kinks etc etc unlike some sites filtered by the hurt feelers police
Comment #40 by Ktmkiwi in response to Cheekies ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 12:16PM
Oh yea....let's get it on then I hear once you grit your teeth and take it in the ass the first time it's a slippery slope 😱
Comment #41 by Cheekies in response to Ktmkiwi ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 12:21PM
You fixated with arse action then??
Comment #42 by Ktmkiwi in response to Cheekies ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 12:24PM
Ass and boobs πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ only look at the female ones tho, anything else would be with my eyes well shut!
Comment #43 by Cheekies in response to Ktmkiwi ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 1:05PM
Oh ok just a few of your comments read like youre taking the piss with anal... ahh well each to their own
Posted on 25-Jan-21 1:06PM
Maybe he is looking for a chick with a decent sized strapon.
Posted on 25-Jan-21 1:10PM
Maybe... it kinda reads across as a religious nut entering hell and preaching to people about going to hell when hes there too.

Or any anti gay, trans person who posts his fear in a discussion but gets off on gay porn!

A little insecure maybe??
Posted on 25-Jan-21 1:12PM
Maybe at a sexual crossroad and doesn't know which way to go.
Comment #47 by Ktmkiwi in response to Cheekies ( view post )
Posted on 25-Jan-21 1:56PM
, defo not a religious but!!
Posted on 25-Jan-21 1:57PM
Maybe, just a little curious.... Nothing other than that!

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