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I’ve met quite a few people on here, had some awesome experiences with guys and girls 😄

I've met few people on here. Both single females and couples. It's all in the way you come across. Don't be pushy, take your time and make it genuine. In saying that though it's still not as often as I'd like

I’ll add to my previous comment.
I like to meet guys face to face prior and I’ve had some great experiences and liked a few and pretty much said no to others. About 20/80 really.
I cant host very often, but when I can, I know who to contact.
I have had some really interesting chats with guys and I once met a crossdresser at a park, dress as a woman. That was a surprise. I knew he was a CD, I just didn’t think he would meet me as a she…

This subject is almost right up there with the question, how do you understand woman.
Met and chatted with my fair share over the years, most good and some frogs.
I guess some need to be cautious and some are shy. All have our quirks and guessing others can be tricky.
The good communicators tend to be genuine and those who can’t string a sentence, quite likely time wasters. My input here is no different to what others have said and will continue to say for ever in the day.

No haven't found or met any1 can't even seem to get an escort. Bit desperate. Looking at closing account and looking elsewhere

Put some pics on your profile.
I don’t see trans, sissies or cd’s chasing guys with no pictures.

I met one guy from another site and just... so many very subtle red flags... and it's definitely bad when you find out he literally has a wikipedia page with "Sexual abuse allegations" as one of the titles. Still, hasn't dissuaded me from wanting to meet others I like and am charmed by ^v^.

quite a few,just got to be prepared to put the work in

We are all on here seeking different things. Its not exclusive to people wanting no strings hook ups. Many people state what they seek in their profile. I have met so many people from this site from all over the country North and South. Made some great friends as well. Quality takes time, sometimes effort to weed through the fake, dreamers who talk up a big game but never see things through absolute time wasters. Many are the ones who message you with an out the gate request only to deactivate their account to recreate another.

I have only been stood up twice, two different guys. I don't sit with the regret thats on them, theyve tried over time to reconnect, they will never get another chance. Time is precious, I choose not to waste it on people who havent put in the energy to deserve it.

One piece of advice that will hopefully resonate with someone - stop it with the entitlement attitude, if you message someone quit assuming you are doing them a favour and you are who and what they seek. As others have said respect and time goes a long way.

It comes down to have the life you deserve

could`nt agree more!

I agree with everything you have said. But what about older people looking? Someone said it is a preference but I think it is ageism.

um,what do you mean? ive had meets/friends etc. of both sides of my age.I agree,lots of tyre kickers/ not genuine people( probably because a lot of the benefits of this site are free)some really genuine people on here though!.But as in any site it can be a bit tricky to `connect` .

I have enjoyed many dalliances and/or conversations with some great guys over my almost 4 years on here. Have found it to be all about the 'job application' interviewing process as I call it.
As an older gal initially I was seeking the company of someone closer to my own age. Sadly for both myself and some of those men, ED issues made moving forward untenable 🤷‍♀️
Once I overcame my fear of treading into relative paedophile territory lack of ageism on my part brought new delights! 😊
Yes, as women we do hold all the power on here..."sitting on a gold mine" is apparently the term.
Main reason for that in my experience here is due to the ridiculously high ratio of males to females. And the solution is...🤷‍♀️

100%! ratio is out,but thats on most dating sites i think?...not going there!,haha

Ageism? Is it sexism if you only prefer one gender over the other? Is it racism to prefer one culture over others? You like what you like... Attraction is an independent thing. I'm not attracted to dim witted people, so does that mean I am a mindist? OK that was a stretch but hopefully I've made my point.

What an amazing profile. I am a solo older guy and dont get much action on here or Kiwiswingers but those i have had enjoyed the experience i just wish all those who say age is just a number stood by it instead of making excuses.

In our previous incarnation here we had a lot of meets. Like a lot. This time around...not so many.

Still in contact with some people from before and try to meet up when we can but real life, distance, etc often makes that difficult.

Then of course, you have the ones who think that they are better than everyone else, not only want the moon but half of the solar system, makes it very difficult to want to contact or even meet them.
Another thing (dare I say it ), women mostly, who don't even have the decent courtesy to answer with even a Thank you but no thank you, no matter how nice, lengthy or detailed the contact message was to them.

Yep I agree...I rarely get any replies which I find pretty rude.

We always reply to everyone,we also make it very clear right from the first message that sorry we dont play with bi/curious guys,Ladies different story.Age is but a number if a guy can get it up and as long as he showers before arriving then fine,we have and still have friends we have met from swinging over the years we have been involved ,we love the life style so no need to cheat as we have an open relationship

Having read a couple of comments about ED. Are you saying a guy with ED isn't suitable and therefore should be put on the rubbish heap? They also have feelings and can give a guy and a woman pleasure.

Being the devils advocate here
So why the discrimination between Bi/curious guys and women?.....Reason.
Especially if the males don't indulge in anal.
Can understand male half of you because your straight.

If thats what you think then thats your privalage just not us

Because Karen is Bi IM VERY STRAIGHT not interested in guys at all

Cool, fair enough.

It certainly does, you guys are soo much fun, I just wished we lived closer!

ive been on this site for many years,(now a non paying member,) ive met a fair few ,both m and f,a few couples,also i used to organise gang bangs,...getn older now so not much playing,( hence the non paying member) however i still enjoy the site, good luck all, play safe

that makes me a mindist too, might have to add it to my profile.

Good on ya girl and why not, those dimwits are all over the Internet, they're those ones who say you're gorgeous and they want to get to know you better, but they don't ask questions to make that happen hahahaha they think saying that gives them an instant connection

The good news is it's not hard to weed them out 😆

Hard to ask questions when the Ladies don't respond to messages, faults on both sides of the gender gap I feel.

Blah blah blah 😂😂😂

I dont know which lady youre referring to but Ive always been responsive when I am messaged.

Yes you are, corresponded with you several years ago now. Had a couple of good chats before I left the site.
No particular lady, just most women in general.

We always reply as well its only polite

The key is consistency, so many people leave and recreate themselves for whatever reason. I don't have the time and energy to do that so I just keep my same username and do as I please :)

No wonder the Ladies get annoyed.
A woman posts something that could be construed as sexy, next minute, 20 or more guys jump on and comment that they want in on the action.
Kinda wants to make me giggle.

Lucky you 😀

Yes, I met a really nice guy from here. We had a couple of no stress coffees and talked about what we each wanted but also said if either of us wasn't interested then we wouldn't go further.
He decided not to go further!

Hard out, there's a couple in here who don't respond to well written considerate emails but complain they're getting no action

I think you are a awesome lady to meet for coffee

You're a bit far away!

I will be in Auckland on Friday

I'll be working! I do shiftwork 2pm to 4am.

I will be there until Monday

Very well said there cheekies

Cheers:)

Well said boxer , I am still coming meet up with you , just not sure when I am going down your way yet , you will like my cock ❤️

I am certain that age has a great deal to do with no replies and such like I join NZP for the first time 2012 and had quite a lot of fun but now days it has dried up

I have met a few guys on here and some of them are now friends. I still get the odd requests, but I'm not on here often, so emails just sitting there, when I am online I tend to be perving at profiles pics etc it is after all why I'm a paid member and I want to enjoy my membership while I can.